Wanting a person and having a full life are not opposites.

Honest writing about being single: friends, fatigue, breakups, and wanting someone without settling.

Questions we answer

47%
of adults under 50 without children say they are unlikely to ever have them, up from 37% in 2018.
Pew Research Center, 2024. U.S. adults, 2023 survey.
Half
of single U.S. adults are not looking for a relationship or dates right now.
Pew Research Center, 2020. U.S. adults, 2019 survey.
1 in 3
unmarried adults ages 22 to 35 are actively dating.
Wheatley Institute and Institute for Family Studies, 2026. 5,275 unmarried U.S. adults ages 22 to 35.
86%
of unmarried adults ages 22 to 35 expect to marry someday.
Wheatley Institute and Institute for Family Studies, 2026. 5,275 unmarried U.S. adults ages 22 to 35.

Single at 30American Psychological Association (Speaking of Psychology)
Living a happy single life, with Geoff MacDonald, PhD (opens apa.org)
A psychologist who studies singlehood explains what separates satisfied singles from unhappy ones.
Post-breakup lonelinessGreater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley
Eight Ways to Ease the Pain of Loneliness (opens greatergood.berkeley.edu)
Practical, research-informed things to do when the quiet after a breakup gets heavy.
Wanting a personNPR (Life Kit)
There's pressure to be partnered. Here's how to enjoy single life (opens npr.org)
Holds both truths at once: you can want a partner and still build a life you like right now.

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